We shyly danced near each other

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Like waking up and not knowing where he was and how he got there sort of thing. Getting sober is a journey, not a destination. After returning I was still so in love with him and talked to him about moving to the same town so we could be together more. For the most part, we make it work. The only people who really know about alcoholism and addiction, are recovering alcoholics and addicts.

So I stopped all contact with him and avoided him at meetings. These people are totally weird. How the two of you feel is what matters.

The hardest part sometimes is just

So I was abstinent partly out of fear. The hardest part sometimes is just listening and saying nothing. If you are considering dating a recovering alcoholic, know that being in a relationship with a person who is diligently working a twelve step program is a wonderful thing. We're overly sensitive in our emotions and obsessive in our thinking.

As well as the usual things people want, like intellect and a sense of humor. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to be with someone who drinks like me, but a woman who doesn't drink to get drunk works. He's not preachy, is very funny, seems kind, and we have tons in common in terms of interests. Stopping the drug is easy, but healing all of the pain that was behind the using takes many years of hard work.

In addition, staying sober, at least in the first few years, is a full-time job and having a new romance is very distracting. Do not obsess and lose yourself in it all.

It was our first week-long trip together. Her passions are writing about recovery at Lifetobecontinued.

So I was abstinent partly

Other than that, I don't have much interface with addicts, I guess. They are monitoring their behaviour.

You have some right to know that. Keeping the lines of communication open is vital for someone in recovery. On the rare occasion he gets drunk, I now realize it has nothing to do with me.

The key to having a successful relationship is being open, upfront and honest. It is up to you to decide what you own.